What a strange place to find a voice of reason in this day and age. I was perusing a copy of The New York Times Women's Fashion Spring 2007 that happened to be lying around at work during my dinner break. I know, I know, what would a woman such as myself be doing looking through such a magazine. Well, for starters, it's been a busy day and I needed to de-stress a bit with some mindless flipping of pretty pages. And, secondly, although I find most fashion trends to be highly impractical and un-wearable, I do like to keep a sort of idea of what the current fashion is in the vain hope that for once they might have actually designed clothing that can be worn by real people. But I digress... (hey I am allowed, it is my blog after all!)
As I flipped idly through the ad's and the blurbs about this designer or that, my attention was caught by this title: "The Wow Vows: When it Comes to Weddings Has Every Modern Woman Lost Her Mind?" If you haven't read the article (click the above title if you would like to) it is an overview of a book titled "One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding" by Rebecca Mead that (the article says) will be available in May. I have to agree that weddings in this country are extremely out of hand. And maybe, as the author suggests, it has become so because of the horrible failure rate of marriages in this country. As she states "No one can blame the younger generation for seeking talismanic protection against committing the mistakes of their elders, and the fantasy that the future of a marriage might be secured by the conduct of a wedding is a poignant and persuasive one." Maybe... I tend to think that the reason weddings are so extravagant is because people in our culture have become so selfish. Women want men to be perfect fairy-tale princes for them (I am not quite sure what the men are looking for in these princesses quite honestly, not being a man and all). To many women, true love means never having to compromise their wishes, never having to sacrifice or deny themselves for the sake of anyone or anything. It is very much a "Sex and the City" kind of attitude. As the article goes on its author touches on this point and leaves the reader with a short blurb about the poor groom. I especially liked the last few lines: "Is he thrilled to be cast in the role of the Prince? Is he congratulating himself on having won the fair heroine? Or is he wondering what he's gotten himself into and whether his wife will grow up anytime soon? Is he asking himself how hard it's going to be to make a princess happy? I sure hope he had fun at the stag party."