September 3, 2007

Friendship

Well things here have settled down and settled in for the most part. The move is done, school and work started for my husband and I, and I am starting to get back into blogging. In my perusal of other blogs I came across this post which led me to another post. These posts really struck a chord with me. I don't make friends easily and have a hard time keeping up with the ones I have. Until I read these posts I thought it was just because I was a bad friend. I thought that other people must somehow be able to connect better and have better "social skills" than me. Then, after reading these posts, I started to think about my friendships (or lack thereof) present and past. I realized that most of the people I have been friends with don't share many (if any) things in common with me (or I with them, however one looks at it). So maybe my problem isn't that I have bad social skills or am a terrible friend, simply that I haven't found that commonality with another person, aside from my husband, that fosters good friendships. In many ways the last couple years have been enormously trans-formative for me spiritually and intellectually and I hope that carries over into the way I relate and connect to people. Perhaps soon I will be able to find and cultivate the kinds of friends that are true, unforced, and enduring.

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